And it's okay; I don't really have fully formed thoughts on it either. It's a complicated topic, and I'd be surprised if anyone felt 100% clear about it. What you said makes perfect sense, and I think you worded it all really nicely!!
People might be denying it to try to clear themselves of the stigma, which is good for them, but has very unfortunate consequences to mentally ill people who have violent/abusive thoughts and impulses. If the mainstream mental health advocates want to distance themselves from them, where they go for help?
This is a really good point that I haven't put much thought into until recently, after seeing a Twitter thread about it.
right now I tend to think that we should be more careful about branding people (instead of their actions) with adjectives such as abusive or violent. IE this person is behaving violently (for whatever reason) is very different than this person is a violent person, though those tend to be used interchangeably. Making this distinction tends to (in my experience) lead to a more meaningful analysis of situations - of course it makes matters more complicated too, but humans are complicated...
This is a really good point, too. That way of thinking makes things feel more... changeable? Less shameful and more... guilt-focused (in a psychological sense)? It's complicated because a lot of people who have gone through abuse find it empowering (?) to call the person who hurt them their abuser. I feel like I don't have enough experience/information to talk about the labeling aspect, but what you've said makes perfect sense!!
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Date: 2017-04-20 05:06 pm (UTC)This is a really good point that I haven't put much thought into until recently, after seeing a Twitter thread about it.
This is a really good point, too. That way of thinking makes things feel more... changeable? Less shameful and more... guilt-focused (in a psychological sense)? It's complicated because a lot of people who have gone through abuse find it empowering (?) to call the person who hurt them their abuser. I feel like I don't have enough experience/information to talk about the labeling aspect, but what you've said makes perfect sense!!