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[personal profile] cathugger
My brain has been a swirling pile of mush lately, so I might be wishywashy and have problems making up my mind for a while. Right now, I'm trying to figure out how I want to use DreamWidth. It'll probably take some time to figure it out. In the mean time, if I do something that comes across rude like take a while to respond or revoke access, there's a very low chance it's about you. If this helps, I haven't found a single person I dislike on here so far. Anyway, I'm going to (possibly unnecessarily) explain some things. Even if no one needs to hear it, I'll probably feel better after explaining.
  1. Replying to and even reading comments on my entries can be extremely difficult at times... but I'm happy for the interaction!! I tend to isolate and am usually very lonely, so comments bring in a mix of emotions. And please don't feel obligated to comment on anything I post! This journal is mostly for keeping track of thoughts and life, and I've never expected to actually get comments on anything (though I still wanted to make it public for some reason). Another little thing to keep in mind is that, even though I want different views and criticism, I can feel attacked/hated by others very easily and shut down. Again, this does not mean that you did anything wrong at all!!!! Anyway, getting to the point, no pressure to comment on any of my entries, and how I respond (or don't respond) to your comments doesn't reflect you at all!!
  2. I don't know how I want to give out access yet. When I first participated in the [community profile] 2017revival group, I found more people to subscribe to than expected... and almost all of them granted me access. I granted access to the first few people and soon realized that there were so many people coming in that it was hard to keep up with everyone. Then I thought about my more private posts being visible to the unexpected amount of people and am really conflicted right now. I'm usually okay with oversharing with random people on the internet, but now it sounds like having that control is nice, and I feel weird granting access to a bunch of people when I have to go back and check who they are! (sorry.) If I don't grant you access back, I'm probably trying to settle down and get to know you first. If I revoke access, it's not you. It means I'm trying to organize the journals I connect with and have some things to figure out.
  3. This is where I plan to store memories and my unfinished thoughts. I want to be able to freely do that without fear (unless something I say is hurtful/offensive to someone!). I may toy around with ideas and sound more confident in them than I actually am. If I don't let myself do this, it's hard to trust any opinions I've formed. So. Yeah. Please don't take my entries too seriously.
  4. I'm also trying to let myself write freely on here. I think it would be good to have a place where I can just spill words naturally, which can be difficult when there are so many good and serious writers on here. Basically, don't expect good writing on here for the most part. I'm trying to let myself be free and informal--without having to worry about editing most of the things I write.
  5. If you want filters for anything, let me know! Still trying to figure out how I'd like to set up the filter system.
That's all I can think of for now. And yes, this got more rambly than expected. (Is that really a surprise, though?) If I'm inconsistent on anything, it's because I'm figuring things out. Anyway, thank you for reading, and sorry about any irrelevant information!!

Date: 19 April 2017 12:48 am (UTC)
matrixmann: (Ready)
From: [personal profile] matrixmann
This is indeed a thing to get used to here compared to Livejournal. You can subscribe to anyone to read him through your Reading Page and save a hook to track someone's entries (of which you can only do 25 ones on a free account, including already all overall notifications that are important), but you needn't be friends with the same user or he needs to grant you access to any of his friends-only content. Technically, he doesn't even need to like it having you follow his entries.
This is usally much more of a drama when one thing can't come without the other, as some people don't want random people to add them to their friends list.

Date: 21 April 2017 07:26 am (UTC)
matrixmann: (Ready)
From: [personal profile] matrixmann
You don't have that many trolls around sites like these here as are common on other platforms - people who wanna get disturbed by anything just to pull a reason from somewhere to get on your nerves. That is a thing that makes a huge difference in terms of getting molested...

Date: 19 April 2017 01:29 am (UTC)
stormsong: coffee in the fall (Default)
From: [personal profile] stormsong
It's your journal; do what makes you comfortable!

*hugs*

Date: 19 April 2017 01:47 pm (UTC)
finding_helena: Girl staring off into the distance. Text from "River of Dreams" by Billy Joel (Default)
From: [personal profile] finding_helena
That makes sense. I know it takes time to get all the new names and faces straight when you acquire a lot of new "friends" at once.

Date: 22 April 2017 07:41 pm (UTC)
ashkenazimermaid: (Default)
From: [personal profile] ashkenazimermaid
Came here to say this! I wish DW had the note feature until I could keep everyone straight, but hopefully it won't take me long. I completely understand what you're saying though. <3

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